I’ve been promising a blog entry dealing with the impact of porn on women in modern society for a very long time now. It’s something that’s been rolling around in my head since I realized there are far more high school and college aged women claiming to be bisexual than there were back in my day (in case you’re wondering, I’m 32 and will be 33 in roughly a month). The 18-year-old bisexual girl I worked with a few years ago that wore her sexuality like some sort of badge of honor is who truly inspired this line of thought.
Why haven’t I typed this up sooner? To be 100% honest, I just don’t understand women. Combine that with an overall fear of, well, making a fool of myself, and you’ll understand why I’m typing this up two and a half years down the road from the original piece.
However, I’ve also come to the realization that this issue may be bigger than porn. I’ll try my best to make this easy to follow. 😉
As with pretty much anything I write, this is a work in progress, and I may not agree with it at all in about a week, as I’m always striving to learn more and better understand human motivation.
I have a MySpace friend that recently sent out the following bulletin:
Come to my page and listen to my amazing song. I have the lyrics posted up in the music section so you can read along.
It’s talks about the struggles so many young girls go through today. They are living in a generation where it is normal not to have a father around. LOVE your little girls. Make sure they KNOW they are loved. The first time they hear they are truly beautiful it shouldn’t be from the guy taking them to prom.
The song in question:
I’m not going to post the lyrics, but they can be found here.
Based on all that, I’m starting to wonder if all of the sexual issues and screwed up relationships we see today don’t stem from a distortion of Genesis 2:23-24:
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones,
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.”
24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.
I once worked with a guy that said marriage is an “outdated institution.” Unfortunately, he may be right. Let me explain…
I believe all of the world’s problems can be boiled down to two universal truths:
1) People are selfish.
2) People are stupid. (for the sake of a simple 3-word rule, I’m defining stupid as “knowing better, but acting anyway.”)
None of us are exempt from either rule.
How does this apply to the modern relationship? Well, what I see happening is a bunch of people trying to fill an inherent desire to “become one flesh” with things they shouldn’t. For men porn is a big issue, though there are other things. While I realize women can be addicted to the same stuff as men, from my observations I see a bunch of young girls conforming to what they think men want them to be. Example: Lots of young men look at porn. In pornography, all women are bisexual. As a result, we see a rise in the number of openly bisexual young women out there (in other words, a girl who is bi is considered pretty darn cool). Probably an oversimplification, but you see my point. 😉
From there, you then have a bunch of dysfunctional people having kids. Where do those kids look for an example of how to be a parent? Thus the circle of life turns into a downward spiral.
What should we do instead? Well, I think the following quote from Maya Angelou sums it up:
A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ, that a man should have to seek Him first to find her.
Ultimately, we’re all pursuing personal desires and nothing more. “If anyone wants to be first, he must be the very last and the servant of all.” (probably a paraphrase, as I never can remember where that’s found in the Gospel of Matthew). Until we can put ourselves aside, marriage is an “outdated institution,” and the pornified society wins.