A coworker said that to me the other day. It caught me off guard, because I’m generally happy with my job, and feel like I make an effort to fix what is wrong instead of just griping about it. However, I can’t see myself how others see me, so it’s entirely possible that I’m a big complainer. I could just be numb to it.
I’m also pretty sure that how I behave at work is how I behave outside of work, so this whole thing concerns me on a pretty big level.
A couple of things I’ve seen recently that have me thinking…
First, I was watching Nick & Norah’s Infinite Playlist the other night, and there’s a line about Tikkun Olam that kind of bugs me:
Norah: There’s this part of Judaism that I like. Tikun Olam. It said that the world is broken into pieces and everyone has to find them and put them back together.
Nick: Maybe we don’t have to find it. Maybe we are the pieces.
It bugs me mostly because of Nick’s response. We aren’t the pieces. We’re the ones that broke the world. We dishonor god and each other with our totally selfish pursuits. For those of us that complain a lot, this is the source of that complaining; people aren’t behaving as I think they should, and it bugs me. Why should I try to understand anyone else when it’s obvious I’m always right?
Second, something I found on the blog of a Crossfit gym in California:
If we were to take a look at the world through color or lack their of, would you life be bright or dull. Taking a visual aid from the 1998 movie “Pleasantville” where an idyllic complacent 1950′s town lives in a world without color, significant excitement and limited enthusiasm. The movie’s depiction reflects a general lack of concern for finding new stimulants and simply maintaing an acceptance of being mediocre. So how does the plot of “Pleasantville” relate to us at the gym.
Earlier this week we discussed that if you did not enlighten your friends to the idea of training with us that you were directly supporting and encouraging them to develop diabetes and have their feet removed forcibly from their bodies. Since that post almost a whole 2 days ago we have seen many of you bring your friends in and share the cure, so to that I congratulate you. Now back to the topic at hand, please do not allow your friends and family to live a life of gray complacency, bring a little color into their life. Let us paint your life with vibrancy and gloriousness.
Yeah, it focuses on exercise, but makes a very valid point that can apply to pretty much anything in life. I think Rabbi Nachman of Breslov said it best:
לבקר אחרים ולתת להם הרגשה שאינם רצויים – זאת יכול כל אחד לעשות. אך לרומם את רוחם ולהעניק להם הרגשה טובה – לכך דרושים כישרון מיוחד והשקעת מאמץ
Think about that for a while!
(okay, seriously, in English):
Criticising others, giving them an unwelcome feeling, can be done by anyone. Uplifting them and giving them a good feeling – that takes a special gift and spending effort.
Truly, there is nothing worth complaining about. It should be my goal in life to uplift others, not worry about (mostly insignificant) issues I let get to me. Complaints don’t make the world a better place, and I need to keep that in mind.
Pushin’ Weight Update
So, I’ve been hitting the gym, using the workouts posted at Crossfit Football. It’s going well, but I still need to work on cleaning the junk out of my diet. I may try to post a weekly workout that includes all workouts, but I’m a little scared my blog could turn into an exercise log, which I don’t want, so I’ll see what I can work out.